Showing posts with label the job. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the job. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Introspection. I'm Really Sorry.

I'm sick; it hit me when I was out of town. The muck is hanging out in my chest and I've got a wet cough and frankly I am not feeling all that witty tonight. 


As you know, I was in Las Vegas over the weekend.  I went out and shot pictures every morning I was there and on Sunday I swear, all I was doing was taking pictures of the buildings. Here, I'll show you: 




I received a pretty nice zoom lens for Christmas, so I was standing across the street from the scene at the time.  I happened to look up and saw a guy posing for me.  

Me (yelling from across the street): Want me to take your picture? 

Him: I thought you just did! 

Me: No! I was taking a picture of the building. 

(Warning: non sequitur approaching...)

Him: What do you do for a living? 


I should have lied. I should have said I'm a graphic designer and was working on color palettes for a project. Or a zoo keeper. Or a gun shop owner in town for the big trade show that ended two days before.* Instead the truth just burst out like water from a busted pipe, which meant I was stuck for the next several minutes trying to justify myself: 

Me: I'm a social worker. 

Him: I thought it was something like that. 

Me: What? Why? 

Him: My sister is a social worker.  My sister-in-law is a social worker.  Y'all like checking up on people.  

Translation: social workers are nosy. Therefore, I'm a social worker because I was taking (not very interesting) pictures of a parking garages. 

Actually, the uber lens probably freaked him out a bit. Plus he likely thought I was lying to him and had indeed taken pictures of him and not the buildings; his line of questioning turned into whether or not I was a private investigator on the weekends. 


I'm not. 


For the record.  

But the man does have a point. I've maintained for a very long time that social workers as a group are nosy. Oh I suppose the marketers could spin it as "interested in others' stories" but let's be honest: We're nothing more than "trained professionals" who prod into the personal lives of strangers and happen to get paid** in the process.

Kinda like journalists. Only more reputable because ours is labeled a "helping profession." 

Whatever that means. 


I'm sure it's real helpful to a man who wants to die and is pissed his attempt didn't work for me to pepper him with questions and then ship him off to a psych ward.  


Or for a baby to be yanked from the only parents she knows and thrown into the state system for God knows how long.   


I know. I know! What else are we supposed to do? Someone has to protect the people. 


Sometimes, though, the job just feels mean. It feels like I'm nosy and mean and it's all wrapped up under the guise of "for your own good." 


It's not a bad thing, I think, for social workers to remember that with our jobs comes much power--and that power isn't necessarily in the forefront of our minds at all times. We have the capacity to disrupt peoples' lives and it's important for us to always be aware of this fact. More crucially, we have to not take advantage of the inevitable power structure that is tipped in our favor any time we initiate contact with the people we serve. It can be a challenge at times, because man! Are some of those people challenging. 


You know what I'm saying.  


All it took was perfect, slightly paranoid stranger in another city who misunderstood my hobby for this aspect of my profession to hit home on this particular evening.  ->    


*I didn't find out about it until the last day of the show, otherwise I SO would have gone. I could have walked from my hotel. Talk about missed opportunity! I was so mad...

**Not very much, granted. 

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Dell

We have a Dell plant in Oklahoma City.  I've always wondered what they do there. Without checking The Googles, I'm going go to assume it's a call center.  I just drove by it today, in fact. Stand by while I check to see if I'm correct...


BINGO!  


Although Dell calls it a "Customer Contact Center".  Which makes the job all the more appealing, I'm sure.  -> 

Saturday, May 7, 2011

Jack

 
I never eat here.  I ended up having to work last night and got slammed.  Because I had put off taking my pic for the day, I had to scurry as the clock struck midnight.  

ER staff tend to eat out.  A lot. -> 

Friday, November 12, 2010

Flashback

I'm generally not one to get all sentimental on Veteran's Day, which we celebrated yesterday, for all kinds of reasons, and I won't enumerate them here.  I think this quote sums it up best though:  "Patriotism is a kind of religion; it is the egg from which wars are hatched."  (Guy de Maupassant) 
That being said, I heard part of Fresh Air last night on the way home from the gym, and it reminded me of a story, one that I meant to post on my old blog and just never got around to it. 


Say you: I thought you said you weren't writing about this stuff anymore...
Say me:  Um, my blog.  Therefore I'm entitled to fickle behavior. 


One of the first assessments I ever did, four or five years ago now, was for a young woman who had made a feeble attempt to end it all: some minor cutting on her wrists that didn't even require stitches.  When I walked in the room I momentarily paused before I began because her beauty took my breath away.  She wasn't Angelina Jolie beautiful or Marilyn Monroe beautiful or even typical, white-man-fantasy porn star beautiful. She was quietly beautiful: thin, but not horribly so, creamy dark skin, piercing dark eyes, long curly hair, perfectly balanced features.  She was polite and unassuming and sad.  So, so sad.  Silent tears marked her face like roads on a map the entire time I was with her.


She was there with her husband who was an Iraqi Freedom vet.  They were high school sweethearts and married a year or so after they graduated.  Three weeks later he deployed, and two weeks after that he lost his leg to an IED.  Honorably discharged and fully rehabbed with the new leg, he was working in finance by the time I saw them. 


And she never really dealt with it.  Any of it.  


One of the earliest and hidden casualties of the war: the mental health of a spouse who lost her dreams and expectations. Not to mention her husband's leg. -> 

Monday, September 20, 2010

Kari Out

     
The staff at the hospital order food in on a regular basis.  It's always good food.  And by that I mean it's always really high calorie-n-fat-n-sodium-n-sugar-laden foods that stay with you via your thighs for years yet possess aromas that are enough to drive one to misdemeanor behavior in the form of egg roll theft. 
Say you:  You didn't!
 Say me:  I didn't.  But don't think I didn't contemplate it.  The guilt stopped me. 
Say you: The guilt from stealing food that didn't belong to you and was paid for by a hard-working nurse or tech would be over-bearing, I agree.  
Say me: Please.  I would not have felt guilty about the stealing for crying out loud. I would have felt guilty about ingesting the calories. ->  

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Tit for Tat

Here’s how it works:  YOU are in psychological crisis late at night so YOU go to an ER and ask for help.  The medical professionals do their job to check you medically, then they call in for reinforcements for the mental health “touchy feely” stuff that they hate. 

Enter ME. 

*I* receive the call, and then get ready to come see YOU.  And by “get ready” I mean the following occurs: I call my boss for clarification on an issue having to do with you, I call the afore-mentioned medical professionals to appraise them of what the boss and I discussed, I get dressed, and I put on my game face.  This includes applying not only my foundation, powder, and eye shadow, but my mascara, which, frankly, is a pain in the…well…eye.  Potentially.  Earrings? Check.  Fluffed hair? Check.    

Let’s be clear here: Once I adorn the make-up and heels and I walk out that front door, I’m ready.  No matter the time. No matter the situation. Bring. It. 

YOUR job is then to stay put and wait for me.  There’re none of these psychological warfare ploys  allowed wherein you let me get ready, walk out the front door, get in my car, begin my drive and then you leave the ER  against medical advice.  ->